A dad who has had enough of his son “mooching” around took to Reddit to ask users whether he’d gone too far after he gave him a list of rules to follow – including restricted wifi
A dad has divided opinions after sharing a list of rules for his son to follow.
Writing on Reddit, the man explained how his 23-year-old son Chris recently moved back home after graduating from university as he could no longer afford his rent.
“He said it was temporary but he’s been here for 4 months and that’s not what bothers me but the fact that he adds to our expenses and hasn’t started working and doesn’t help in any capacity.
“In other words, he’s become a burden,” he wrote in his post.
Finally, he’d had enough of his son “mooching around” and suggested to his wife that they give him a gentle nudge to help him get on his feet.
“She gasped saying how dare I imply we kick him out but that wasn’t what I suggested.”
He sat down with Chris and gave him a timeline for when he’s to either start working and help around the house or move out, and until then he would have to follow a list of rules.
“A. No counting on us to do basic tasks and start doing his own laundry and wash his own dishes.
“B. No complaining about what’s for lunch/dinner and accept and be grateful for the food he eats.
“C. No wifi more than 6hrs a day just like his younger sister.
“D. No luxuries like Netflix subscriptions and youtube live streams unless he somehow pays for it himself.”
Chris was furious and insisted that he was not a child and that he shouldn’t be treated like one.
“He blew up complaining about how ridiculous and unfair my rules were and reminded me he’s not a child anymore but I told him a child or not, as long as he lives under my roof then he’s expected to follow the owner’s rules,” the dad said.
Realising he wasn’t getting very far arguing with his dad, Chris called in for backup – his mum.
The posted continued: “He got frustrated and yelled ‘mum’ to come to his rescue. He got her involved and asked her to talk some sense into me.
“My wife argued with me and I asked her if she was okay with Chris recklessly increasing our bills and spending so much of our money on lavish stuff while doing nothing in return.
“She blew up telling me to get rid of these unreasonable rules and that I should be ashamed of myself for treating my own son as an unwanted guest.
“I refused and told her she was enabling his unacceptable behaviour and that Chris still has a chance to turn his situation around if he doesn’t like it. Plus what does this teach our daughter? That it’s okay to be a lazy and irresponsible adult.
“She said Chris came home with a degree so damn right he’s responsible but is struggling and I was making it worse for him. She finished by saying I shouldn’t be surprised if he no longer speaks to me after he moves out eventually.”
He concluded his post by asking whether he’d gone “too far” and users were divided.
One person said: “‘IM NOT A CHILD’ then proceeds to go ‘MOOMMMYYY, DADDY TOOK AWAY NETFLIIIIXXX.'”
Another wrote: “My mum would slap me back into the womb if I acted like this. Yeah, the market is pretty tough/crazy right now but that doesn’t mean he can’t get off of his a** and help around the house.
“I have to live with my parents momentarily and I’m cleaning after dinner, grateful for all of the free food that I don’t have to buy, and cleaning up around the house since I’m not paying a damn thing.”
A third commented: “You’re not making unreasonable demands. You’re asking your adult child to contribute to the household. And in lieu of that, you’re setting the reasonable grounds that beggars can’t be choosers.”
But a few users took issue with the rules, especially limiting wifi.
While one person put: “I find the ‘wifi only for 6 hours’ a bit ridiculous. What if he finds a job and can work from home?”, another said: “I think limiting wifi use is a bit eeeh, since it’s one of those things that’s more or less required for everything these days, from job hunting, education, and actual work itself. But if he’s using it in a way that hampers everyone else, restrictions and rules make sense.”
A third wrote: “You went overboard with these rules (no more than 6 hours a day wifi is just plain silly). You also implemented these rules without your wife being on board and knowing she specifically wasn’t on board. Your wife is enabling him.”